1. Dawny August 2, 2014 at 12:22 pm

   Thank you soooo much for caring laurie.. I just caught the pod-cast today.. it’s of course as always AWESOME.. your awesome.. I LOVE LOVE LOVE your mission statement!! I too did this some-time ago, and re-reading over and over is of great help and benefit.. this is one of the ‘take-away’s’ that I VALUE greatly from the beck diet solution book, not quite like you’ve named it a ‘mission statement’ but very similar..

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   1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post authorAugust 2, 2014 at 2:11 pm

      Thanks Dawny, I’m glad you enjoyed. I think it was very helpful for me to put it all down in black and white. It really lets me gage my thoughts and worries AND my goals from a more external place. The only difference is that the external guide CAME from me 🙂

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2. Helen August 3, 2014 at 11:02 am

   Hi Laurie, I have also skipped ahead to your latest podcast to listen to and it was also like you was talking about me, where you talk about Insecurity and it seeming to be another excuse to give yourself permission to fail.
   I am a very insecure and lack of confidence person and I feel I need to be constantly reassured that I’m doing something right, or I just let the fear take control by talking myself out of a job or task, telling myself I can’t do it. The little voice is there in my head telling me I can’t do something, don’t even try because you will fail.
   Big well done on your personal mission statement and I’m sure it will be of great value and support to yourself.
   Also your life dream sounds amazing, I would so love to have somewhere to actually go to in the UK (not sure if I have ever said that’s where I’m from) and have people there who feel the same way as I do, that we could help support and comfort each over in real life.
   A big hello to all the new brave companions that have joined since I last posted, I’m here and listening, but am a bit of a backseat person at the moment.
   Take care everyone x

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   1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post authorAugust 3, 2014 at 11:12 am

      Well done Helen! Boy, I hope my big dreams come true and I can come visit the UK too – I’d love to meet you and Sue and Shirl and the other brave companions from the UK who may not yet be brave enough to come post as you have done. If not, I have hope that someday, there will be groups that are for support and encouragement around these food issues in every area. I think just being heard and feeling safe about sharing are BIG helps in dealing. Not only with food, but with life. Therapy for sure helps me in this way, but there is something magical in being part of a group. Different points of view. Different people who show support in different ways. BTW, you comments here, and on FB, really helped me when I was feeling low. (Insomnia ALWAYS is tough for me). I’ve had a rest, and was just heading off to make the guest room bed, when I saw that you had written here. What a lift to my heart! See, dear Helen, you make a difference!
      xoxoxox

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      1. Helen August 3, 2014 at 11:46 am

         Thank you so much for your reply, it’s so nice that we can all be there for each over and to know that none of us are alone.
         I do hope you manage to get a good night sleep later it is horrible when you can’t sleep.
         I seem to have it the other way round at the moment where I feel I need match sticks to keep my eyes open, and as soon as my head hits the pillows, I’m out like a light which does not go down well with my husband especially when it’s every night lol (see to much sleep can be just as damaging) thanks again Laurie and take care x

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3. Cheryl August 8, 2014 at 7:04 pm

   I normally make notes when I listen to the podcast, but I was busy boiling water to do dishes today as we’ve had to deal with an e-coli issue with our city water the last three days! His lordship is down draining our hot water heater now and hopefully before the evening is over things will be back on track here with our city (at least that’s what they’re telling us…).

   So I can’t remember what you said, Laurie, at the first that brought up the many times people have said to me, “Well just quite eating so much!” I could feel the hackles rise on the back of my neck whatever it was. I wish I had one good retort I could sling back at folks like that because it’s just like Dawny said (I think it was Dawny, pardon if I’m wrong), you can get away from alcohol and even from cigarettes, but you can ‘t quit eating. People can be so insensitive with remarks like that. Grrrr….. Someday I’ll come up with the perfect response to that comment.

   The other thing I wanted to mention was Dawny’s comment about sugar being addictive. Amen, sista! Laurie will tell you that I have had an ongoing battle with our fellowship time after church for years. I can walk in there determined as can be to have just one cookie but will walk away with a plateful of sweets. It’s as if I don’t even know I’m doing it. I sit down at the table and think, “Oh crap! I did it again.” You can’t put them back once you’ve touched them, right? And wouldn’t the ones who brought them be upset if they saw you throw them in the garbage? So I feel quite justified in finishing off the whole plate. It would be nice if people would bring fresh veggies, dip, and fruit, but the awful truth is, healthy snacks are expensive; sugar/fat-laden snacks are cheap. It’s the sugar that gets me every time. If I can stay away from it for a good ten days, I stop craving it. But one cotton pickin’ cookie and the battle begins all over again. So know you’re not in a boat by yourself, Dawny. Sugar truly is addictive.

   And Laur, I know you’re feeling a bit nervous about beginning this support group, afraid it won’t work out, that you’ll talk too much, etc., but those are the very same concerns you had just before you started COD. And look what’s blossomed out of your podcast! You can walk in there with all the confidence in the world because you’ve already proven how great you are at connecting with people about this very important subject. So go get ’em, girl!!!

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   1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post authorAugust 10, 2014 at 6:32 am

      Oh Cheryl, as I posted to our Sparkpeople group, I am SO sorry to hear about your water troubles. What a pain! I am nervous about the support group for sure, and am still waiting for the actual paperwork green light. So part of me is nervous it will go forward, and part is nervous that it won’t. If it does move forward, I will try my best to remember your words and hold my head up high. The worst that can happen is we discover that this isn’t the format for this audience, and it isn’t a reflection on me, per se. This is true of almost any creative endeavor. Btw, I sent your question about starting and not finishing creative projects to Alen, and he loved it, and we will be recording a new interview for his show in a couple of weeks. We had to delay because of my latest bike adventures. Hugs and Thanks again for your comments and support.

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4. Diane August 13, 2014 at 8:47 am

   Hi Dawny! I can sooooooo relate to the “sugar is crack” thing! I am trying not to LIMIT, but not ELIMINATE my added sugar too! Sometimes one bite can lead to a 5000 calorie binge! Ugh! Anyway, just wanted you to know that I understand!,

   XO ♥

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5. Jo June 22, 2017 at 11:43 pm

   Hi Laurie and brave companions, still cruising through and oh my it is like you have mapped out my life in front of me (being over a decade younger 😏
   I also quit smoking and my compulsion was then full on food, then I restricted the food to lose the weight, then over shopped big time, books, clothes and anything. Then restricted the shopping and the food and over exercised …. I just want to be able to do normal things in normal moderation. So hoping that at some point this comes natural to me …. sending love into the future Take care because you are my special walking companion I care about xxx

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6. Danielle April 4, 2018 at 5:20 am

   Hi Laurie, i’m a longtime listener and whilst I know you’re up to Episode 165 i’m plodding along just about 100 episodes behind at Episode 66. Very recently you mentioned Coffee for Laurie and I was so so happy! You see you have kept me company so many times on drives or walks and have given me a “lift” but i’ve never found it in me to comment or connect. The perfectionist in me wanted to be up to date with the your full story and be “current” before immersing myself fully in your podcast. However I may never be and I realise i’m thrilled to be able to buy you a cup of coffee as I realise it will give back a tiny iota of the strength, inspiration and positivity that I take from you so often. Like you (I think) I often want there to be a tit for tat, something neat and tidy, “she did this for me so now i’m going to do that for her”. It was in a different recent episode where you said that you were thinking of making an email list to somehow thank the people who bought you the $5 that I became alarmed at your way of thinking, and in turn my own way of thinking. Laurie, I genuinely want to buy you a cup of coffee (in lieu of a Margherita!) to simply say Thank You. No expectations, nothing in return. Period. I’m reminded of when my grandma taught me to accept a compliment gracefully… if someone tells you they love your new dress you don’t talk about how it’s a bigger size or was so expensive, or how it’s not your colour – you simply say thank you. So Laurie I’m telling you this, with love, a coffee is coming your way from Brisbane, Australia, as a thank you for the last 65 episodes. I truly do not want a recipe or a discount voucher or any truly wonderful thing you could think up. I just want you to accept it because I care, just as you do. (And to be fair when would it ever end?!! If you gave me a recipe and I loved it then i’d want to thank you and we’d be back to square one – an endless Monty Python skit of thanking!!).

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   1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post authorApril 6, 2018 at 9:53 am

      Hi Danielle! At risk of turning this into a Spam-fest of epic proportions, thank you sooo much! For the virtual coffee most certainly, but even more for the thoughtful comments you shared that gave me a good jolt of ideas to ponder. It IS hard for me to believe compliments as well, though I have gotten better over the run of this show, and I, like you, sometimes feel a need to balance out the ledgers. I think the very hardest thing in the world is to accept help, gifts, love, positive support right down to the soul, without feeling the need to work very hard at being worthy. That is the crux of self-esteem issues for me, the feeling that I’m somehow flawed and not enough as is. The idea you ALL need virtual “fries with that” in order to value what I do. In reality, I’ve discovered that when I am most like me, without “proving it” I connect the best and help others the most. It is still difficult, but something I meditate on daily and explore. I had not seen the virtual coffee as part of that practice, but now I truly do. Thanks again for reaching out, and welcome to the wild and wooly world of the BCs. You are for sure on the bravery report and I think your comments will provide other brave companions food for thought as well. xoxoxox

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