1. Suz (Suzanne) October 13, 2014 at 7:25 am

   What an awesome job you did on that Kroger commercial dialogue!
   You are a NATURAL at that. At least you sound like a natural! For someone who can’t feel all of her face, you can talk fast! It all just sounded so good! Great job. I’m glad you didn’t give up.
   It’s a good lesson for me, too. One bad experience in something you have invested so much of yourself emotionally into can feel SO devastating, it can be overwhelming. It can feel like there’s a insuperable chasm between you and the thing you want, and you just can’t get there. But a bad experience or temporary failure is only one part of the whole picture. It’s one step on the journey. You are doing sooooo many things RIGHT…it must give you a great feeling of accomplishment and promise!
   Okay…back to listening…..

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   1. Suz (Suzanne) October 13, 2014 at 8:02 am

      I appreciated Amy from Wisconsin’s call. I’ve not yet read the Intuitive Eating book, nor have I had success that I need to return to, but I can relate to the problem of having life distract me from focusing on what I need to do, or letting it push me totally off the path! Sometimes I wonder how I will ever learn to focus, relax, and be able to connect withmyself in chaotic moments. It’s like I can’t even get a toehold. I’m thrown into a tizzy on a regular basis! I’d like to be able to find an anchor, a cue, some learned way of centering myself. At this point, I feel like the only way I can stop the momentum of this problem is if I were put on an island somewhere. Or maybe tied to a chair and sedated! Everywhere I turn there are triggers, triggers, triggers. And living with my parents, my mom is the one who wants complete control of the kitchen. My cooking something there really irritates her. Or my having my own food in the fridge. She just can’t stand that. I don’t know why, it’s just her thing. I wish it were different, but I have to find some way to cope with it and still find a way to remain calm and centered enough to be able to communicate with whatever my body is trying to tell me…besides “EAT THOSE CARAMEL ROLLS IMMEDIATELY”. (sorry, my compulsive voice is kind of a shouter.)

      Loved your joy on this episode, Laurie! You were effervescent!
      I dont know if I have a Halloweenie song, but I will look for something. The only thing I can think of is Chopin’s Funeral March….a bit dreary! Anyway, can’t promise anything, but I’ll look. I have a super busy next couple of weeks. 🙂 Thanks for wanting me to play for ya again, though! You like me….!!!! LOL!

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      1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post authorOctober 13, 2014 at 10:02 am

         dont know if I have a Halloweenie song, but I will look for something. The only thing I can think of is Chopin’s Funeral March….a bit dreary! Anyway, can’t promise anything, but I’ll look. I have a super busy next couple of weeks. 🙂 Thanks for wanting me to play for ya again, though! You like me….!!!! LOL!

         First of all…just in case there is ANY doubt, I Super Duper LIKE YOU Whhhhheeeeeeeeee!

         Second – any Halloween thing that is FUN FOR YOU is great. Pressure on you. NOT GREAT 😉 Plus, even the Chopin might make a fun background for a spooky story – so if you have something, don’t worry and send it. Mark and I can SFX it into some Halloween bit.

         xoxoxoxox

         PS, I sent your comment about our dialogues to my voice acting teacher and he really got a kick out of it and said he was glad I EXCELLED in his class Hooray! 🙂

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      2. Stéfanie October 16, 2014 at 6:44 pm

         Anything with edward grieg would do 🙂

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         1. Suz (Suzanne) October 17, 2014 at 6:40 am

            True! But it might take me a while to learn it! For now I am working up a duet which is a fugue based on a theme from Lady Gaga’s “Bad Romance.” I’m going to play it on the pipe organ setting of my digital piano. I’m still trying to get my wifi to work, though….it all depends on that so I can record it on the ipad and then send it.
            Lady Gaga is always dressed for Halloween…and this is kind of like Gaga and Bach stitched together; kind of a Frankenstein’s monster of music!
            🙂
            suz

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            1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post authorOctober 17, 2014 at 6:46 am

               Wow, that sound SOOoooo cool Suz! Good luck with the technology, cuz I’m LOVING the concept! 🙂
            2. Stéfanie October 17, 2014 at 9:21 am

               Great idea 🙂
   2. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post authorOctober 13, 2014 at 10:03 am

      Thanks Suzanne! I was really, really proud of that set. You can guess how it feels when the feedback is NOT so positive, but I am so glad I’m trying to incorporate what you suggested and neutralize the language I tell myself about “failure”. This is helping me so much to move forward in all areas. I think perceived failure was a big sink hole for me to spin my energy in for so long.
      Hugs!
      PS, I think it’s a hoot you’ve been commenting play by play, here and on FB as you’ve been listening. So cool!

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2. Cheryl October 13, 2014 at 11:42 am

   Wow! Listening to that voice acting lesson was really interesting. And all three of you sounded very professional. The thing that surprised me the most was, even though you were trying to shave a few more seconds off your time, you all three articulated the words very well. I could understand every one of them. That’s pretty impressive. There are so many things for you to remember as your coach is giving instructions, not just to you but to the others. And you were right on top them all. I’ll wager if that lesson last time hadn’t gone south from what you’d planned, you’d have been every bit as good. I guess learning to roll with the punches is another skill that would come in handy in that business!

   I loved what you said about being able to move on when it’s time without feeling guilty. Ever since I was a kid of five or six I wanted to learn to play the piano, but there was never an opportunity. Ten years ago I FINALLY got the chance. It was a disaster. The perfectionist in me popped out every time I sat down to practice, and I couldn’t get through an entire song without starting over if I made a mistake. Even in my lessons. The lovely, patient piano teacher just didn’t know how to overcome that problem. So after waiting all those years and taking two years of lessons, I finally decided it was not for me. Had I started when I was young it might have been very different.

   But I had no regrets. I had given it my best shot and proved to myself that it wasn’t something I could ever do well, even for my own enjoyment. Still, in the end I think I felt like I had a bit of a victory because at least I tried, and it was my choice to walk away. Having the freedom to choose without feeling guilty is extremely liberating. I know it’s something I need to remind myself of often. I think it’s particularly important in relationships – especially toxic ones.

   And yes, I’d bet every one listening to your podcast has a creative streak. I think Stefanie’s comments were right on the money. We’re sensitive and often get our feelings hurt easy. The question is, which comes first, the being sensitive or being creative. Creative people can be VERY sensitive! Interesting thing to think about.

   Another great show. I love the way your topics have expanded to include so many things besides binge eating. It’s brought a new sense of life to the discussions. I think you were right about there being other important things underneath each of our eating issues. Great job!

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   1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post authorOctober 14, 2014 at 1:05 pm

      Thanks Cheryl! We really had fun doing that session. Articulation and being able to read “off the page” are two of the things we really practice. Some of the vital skills needed for voice acting or voice over work. I’m impressed with your attitude about the piano lessons. It must have been hard to have that disappointment, but you chose your current well-being over serving some “ghost idea” from the past. I think if we can learn to do that, you are right, it makes it easier to try new things. I’m wondering if part of our perfectionism is that we feel if we make a decision, that’s it, come heck or high water, and that puts undue pressure on us. Letting go has been a very hard skill for me. But letting go has been the best thing I’ve ever tried to learn. I too think Stéfanie is on to something about us being a creative group. From my communications, it does seem a high number of BCs care deeply and have many creative outlets. Hmmm, will be interesting to pay attention to that and see what comes of it for the show. 🙂

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      1. Cheryl October 14, 2014 at 2:02 pm

         “…if we make a decision, that’s it, come heck or high water…” Exactly. Which is why I waited so long to tell anyone I was TRYING to write a book. I felt once I committed it was written in stone. That’s interesting now that you brought it up.

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         1. Sue October 14, 2014 at 3:17 pm

            Yes, that is so true. How often do we keep doing things that aren’t right for us on the one hand or back off from continuing after a disappointment or “failure” on the other? Wouldn’t life be so much simpler if we knew which was the right response for us in any situation. I suppose part of it is reaching an objective decision: acting rather than reacting; avoiding being dominated by a desire to people-please etc. Lots to ponder on.

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            1. Cheryl October 15, 2014 at 6:33 am

               You’re right. But the bigger question for me is, why don’t we feel we have a right to make those kinds of decisions for ourselves? How freeing would it be to not have to worry about what anyone thought except me!!! Like THAT’LL ever happen… (Have missed you, btw!)
3. Sue October 13, 2014 at 2:30 pm

   I was listening to your podcast today and nearly jumped up and shouted “Yes!” I was thrilled to hear how well you did in all roles in that commercial. it all sounded so natural. It made me so happy that you have had that success and that you fought through the temptation to stop after that first disappointment. I loved the way you reasoned with yourself. Is that the sort of dialogue you will be doing in your book? If so, it is very powerful.

   I was in a school inset session at the beginning of term and we were hearing about having growth mindsets: how we should be encouraging pupils who say they are no good at something to add “yet”; to be willing to try things and not be devastated by failure; that we grow faster by not getting it correct first time but by trying again it reinforces the value of persistence; that many successful people had many many failures before they saw breakthrough etc etc.

   I know I haven’t posted much recently. Life has just so busy, but I have been listening. It is great to hear of all the new brave companions who have joined since I last made a post.

   Hugs

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   1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post authorOctober 13, 2014 at 2:44 pm

      Wow Sue, I am SO happy to see you posting here again. You have certainly been missed (even though I appreciate all of the FB encouragement you have posted there). Thanks much for your kind words and I think it is BRILLIANT what they say to tell kids (and ourselves). I’m not good at it…yet, I’m nowhere near my goal…yet, I don’t have the strength and endurance for my sport…yet. Great stuff! I’d post more thoughts, but off to singing lesson now. Hugs Hugs Hugs my friend! And I have to be honest, when I heard the playback of that dialogue *I* was jumping up and down saying “Yes” too. It sounded so well and gave me hope. I always felt I could do it, but everything lately seemed so against it, like the underdog kid making the last minute goal in the movies. Yet, there it was, somewhere inside, my inner voice actor came out in the pinch. I wonder where else I have assumed wrongly about what I might do? I wonder what we have ALL assume wrongly? It is something to really ponder, I think.

      PS, my inner talk with myself on my show is EXACTLY what I’m writing about, only I have an embarrassingly rich amount of characters whom I talk with in my head, depending on the situation 🙂

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4. Stéfanie October 16, 2014 at 7:05 pm

   Wanting to quit is not always REALLY wanting to quit. Sometimes we make allusions about desired behaviors that are just synonyms of feelings and that simply translate a state of mind rather than a real action we intend to do.
   For example….
   “I just want to shake/slap/hit/strangle him” (I am really mad)
   “I wish I could just fall a sleep forever” (I am really sad)
   “I could conquer the world right now” (I feel empowered).

   I guess we need to not take ourselves so litteraly sometimes.

   Bravo for your perseverance Laurie. It was worth it! AND your french is perrrfect 🙂 your podcast was full of Joie de vivre 😉

   Stéfanie 🙂

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   1. Laurie@CompulsiveOvereatingDiary Post authorOctober 17, 2014 at 6:53 am

      Merci Stéfanie! I had to put myself on the bravery report for trying to say ‘Joie de vivre’ – even though I try to live it 🙂 xoxoxox

      Also, I LOVE this point you bring up. I AM very literal with myself and react pretty literally when others communicate. Your clue to translate some of these extreme action thoughts into emotions is a very good tip. I think I’ll bring this one up on a future show (just finishing editing Day 83 which should go live today).
      xoxoxoxox

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